Sunday, December 12, 2010
Wednesday, December 8, 2010
These four months, according to the authentic traditions are the months of Zulqadah, Zulhijjah, Muharram and Rajab. All the commentators of the Holy Quran are unanimous on this point, because the Holy Prophet in his sermon on the occasion of his last Hajj, has declared:
"One year consists of twelve months, of which four are sanctified months, three of them are in sequence; Zulqadah, Zulhijjah, Muharram, and the fourth is Rajab."
The specific mention of these four months does not mean that any other month has no sanctity, because the month of Ramadan is admittedly the most sanctified month in the year. But these four months were specifically termed as sanctified months for the simple reason that their sanctity was accepted even by the pagans of Makkah.
In fact, every month, out of the twelve, is originally equal to the other, and there is no inherent sanctity, which may be attributed to one of them in comparison to other months. When Allah Almighty chooses a particular time for His special blessings, then it acquires sanctity out of His grace.
Thus, the sanctity of these four months was recognized right from the days of Sayyidina Ibrahim. Since the Pagans of Makkah attributed themselves to Sayyidina Ibrahim they observed the sanctity of these four months and despite their frequent tribal battles, they held it unlawful to fight in these months.
In the Shariah of our Holy Prophet the sanctity of these months was upheld and the Holy Quran referred to them as the "sanctified months".
The month of Muharram has certain other characteristics peculiar to it, which are specified below.
Fasting during the month
The Holy Prophet has said:
"The best fasts after the fasts of Ramadan are those of the month of Muharram."
Although the fasts of the month of Muharram are not obligatory, yet, the one who fasts in these days out of his own will and choice is entitled to a great reward by Allah Almighty. The Hadith cited above signifies that the fasts of the month of Muharram are most reward-able ones among the Nafl fasts i.e. the fasts one observes out of his own choice without being obligatory on him.
The Hadith does not mean that the award promised for fasts of Muharram can be achieved only by fasting for the whole month. On the contrary, each fast during this month has merit. Therefore, one should avail of this opportunity as much as he can.
Read the rest of this article here.
-Taken from islamicity
So, what are you doing differently this year? We challenge you to choose one thing that you want to change about yourself to increase your iman. Read more Qur'an, give more to charity, be more aware of your prayers or your ibaadah... Happy New Year! ;-)
Najwa & Nadira
Monday, November 29, 2010
Friday, November 19, 2010
A drama-comedy of four Muslim couples who use love, laughter, and deen to choose their path in the journey of marriage. The newly-weds face outside temptation from an office co-worker; while, the wife of another couple finds out she has cancer and decides what's best for her husband. Two families in polygyny try to make it work. It is intriguing, emotional, and informative!
$20 General Admission/ $15 Students & Seniors (Discount for block seats) Now buy your tickets through paypal/at the door $25/20!
Showings at 2:00 pm and 7:00 pm at the Georgia State University Speakers Auditorium. There is free parking available at the "G" Deck or you can take Marta to the Five Points or Georgia State stop.
Be sure to like the play on Facebook and insha' Allah spread the word!
Sister Lailani Mitchell reached out to us and asked if we would share her business with our readers. She is a married mother of two who started Lil' Muslimah as a result of a search for a doll for her daughter, a doll whose dress is modest and wears outfits that a "lil' muslimah" would wear. She began making these dolls in 2007 and has perfected her skill. It brings Lailani great joy and happiness to make these dolls and insha' Allah they will be able to do the same for a Lil' Muslimah in your life.
The dolls are $25 colors and you can customize them. They are available in different skin tones, with/without faces and with different color outfits. Insha' Allah check out her website www.lmssj.com.
Tuesday, November 16, 2010
The embroidery on this abaya is fab and a nice way to add some color. However if the embroidery is to much for you it also comes in navy blue. It unzips to allow for easy nursing and comes in a variety of sizes and lengths.
***even if your not pregnant/nursing, this is super cute***
Wednesday, October 20, 2010
MIA wore a colorful "overgarment" with the words "I love you" on the bottom, heels and a niqab on the red carpet at the Scream Awards. Many say that she may have worn the outfit because of the recent ban on burqa/niqab in France.
***there is also a photo of her flipping the bird on the red carpet which we won't post**
What do you think of this? Do you find it offensive? Do you think she was taking a standing and saying niqab is beautiful? Could there be any benefit for Muslimahs from this? Were do you stand?
Wednesday, October 6, 2010
What is it you think you see when you look at me?
No rights, no freedoms, oppressed and scared?
Why? Because I cover my hair?
What will it take to make you understand?
This path I walk is God's plan!
Just as in the Bible, He commands
For you to cover yourself, except your face and hands!
So please, do not pity me
I cover myself because HE commands
as I humble myself to HIS holy plan!
With my scarf and modest dress
I command of men my full respect!
They do not look at me as an object or prize to obtain
But value me for my intellect and self-respecting ways!
So the tear you see roll down my cheek
is a tear for you and not for me!
For the one who is truly oppressed
are the slaves to fashion, beauty and dress!
As the men of the "modern world" undress you
to sell their shoes and cars
You starve, your purge, you implant and you tuck
to still never feel pretty enough!
So with my head held high, and my veil pulled tight
I walk with pride tonight
With hope that someday you'll see
Just how LIBERATING it is
to be covered like me!
-Heather Noor Brooks
Tuesday, October 5, 2010
1. Istinja Bottle(small water bottle)
starting at .99 cents at Target. Making wudu on the go will be much easier with this in your bag.
2. Compass(to help you know what direction to face for salah), you can use an actual compass or there are plenty of free apps available for iPhones and from Android.
3. Travel Prayer Rug
they don't have to be this fancy, just simple straight pins or safety pins available from WalMart or Jo-Ann Fabrics will help you if you or a friend find yourself in need of one.
5. Pocket Quran
paperback versions are available for $8 at Islamic Place.
Comment and let us know what you think!!!
What are some of your Muslimahs must haves? What do you never leave home without?
Monday, October 4, 2010
"If you don't have anything nice to say, don't say anything at all", I'm sure this is something that we have all heard before. The important question is do we realize how important it is and what it means to guard our tongues?
“Not a word is said except that there is a watcher by him ready to record it” (Quran 50:18). Every single thing that we say is recorded whether it's good or bad. On the day of judgment when we go before Allah(swt) the angels will read EVERYTHING that we said from the book of deeds. It can be so easy to get caught up in the day to day conversations we have, so much so that we don't realize how important what we say is or how it can effect us. When you say something negative about someone, or something that is not true we will be held accountable for it. We will end up wishing that we had never said it.
The Prophet(saw) said, “Whoever believes in Allah and the Last Day should speak good or keep silent”(Bukhari and Muslim).
Another hadith states "The best of all Muslims is one whose tongue and hand others are protected from(Muslim). Are we doing our best every chance we get to make sure that we are among the best? When we are around people talking about someone else do we join in or laugh along with them? Even if we don't say anything it's just the same as condoning it! If you hear someone talking about someone else don't be noisy and participate. Would you want someone to backbite and slander you? How would you feel if you knew that people were talking about you behind your back or spreading your business with others?
We also have to mindful of what type of language we use when we speak. The Prophet(saw) was not one who would abuse (others) or say obscene words, or curse (others)..."(Bukhari).
Things to keep in mind:
Make sure that we are concerning ourselves with the enjoining the good and forbidding the evil
Don't backbite, don't slander, don't use foul language and stop being nosey!!!
Saturday, August 21, 2010
30 Mosques in 30 States is Aman Ali and Bassam Tariq’s Ramadan road trip across the United States.
Beginning August 11 in New York City, the two will spend each night of Ramadan at a different mosque in 30 states around the country. The two’s 12,000 mile route will essentially take them on an outline of the entire country and conclude in Dearborn, Michigan – home to one of the largest concentrations of Muslims in the country.
Muslims for the month of Ramadan are required to fast, going without food or drink from sunrise to sunset. There are an estimated 7 million Muslims living in the United States that come from a wide mix of ethnic backgrounds including African Americans, South and East Asians, Arabs and East Africans.
Each day during Ramadan, Aman Ali and Bassam Tariq will visit a different state and blog about the experience each night, highlighting stories about the people they’ve met, the mosque they prayed in and of course the tasty cuisines each place has to offer.
Thursday, July 22, 2010
It was $59 plus shipping and handling. I know this caftan is a bit pricey for the items we usually pick by I totally love it! A little bit about the caftan: The colors weren't exactly what I expected. I thought it was going to be more greenish and black than blue and royal blue. I still like it, it just wasn't the colors I expected based on the picture, even though it clearly says turquoise and royal blue on the website(doh!). It has pockets which are always useful and side slits at the bottom, so it will need to be worn with something underneath. I should also mention it comes in two other colors: yellow and a lime greenish color.
Thursday, July 15, 2010
Sunday, July 11, 2010
Q: What do you think is a great age to get married? I was curious because I am 18 years old and I start University this fall as a freshman. I sometimes worry that I may not wait long enough to my wedding night. I do not know what to do. I am a very independent-minded girl and I want to to depend on my own for a while; however, I do not want to fall into sin and make any mistakes. I will be studying in a new city, so I do not know how the Muslim men are there. The ones I do know are not faithful at all. So, what should I do? Also, what could I do to keep sin away form me and off my mind?
A: Shukran for your question Sherika. Marriage is very important and alhamdulilah it completes half of our deen. We understand the desire to complete school and be an "independent" woman, however, if you feel that you would fall into sin, we advise you to get married as soon as possible. If you have found someone who would be a good match for you, you should marry them if you feel you would not be able to wait until you get married. Three things that you rush into to are marriage, shahaadah and burial.
If you do decide to get married, it is also important to mention that marriage is a major decision and it's not something to be taken lightly. If you get married you will have to be in school (which is a lot to handle by itself), be a wife and maybe even a mother. This would be a lot for any woman to deal with especially a young woman such as yourself.
We advise that you make istakhara prayer for guidance on whether or not to get married soon and also to fast in order to help you lower your gaze.
"O young people! Whoever among you can marry, should marry, because it helps him lower his gaze and guard his modesty (i.e. his private parts from committing illegal sexual intercourse etc.), and whoever is not able to marry, should fast, as fasting diminishes his sexual power." (Bukhari)
As usual share your comments, opinions and/or naseeha(advice)!!!
Tuesday, July 6, 2010
The trend started 15 years ago, but at that time it was limited to very needy families whose women had to do manual, factory work in small industries. The more educated, but financially troubled ones opted for teaching. The upper class usually did their learning and job abroad. Just 10 years ago it was noticed that 50% of the girls bagged top positions in matric board exams. With each passing year the percentage increased. Gradually the same batch of matriculate girls became toppers in intermediate exams. Girls ruled education everywhere and high hopes were pinned on them to progress further- while being offered a freedom of choice by their families. And now, in this 21st century, from doctors to MBAs, door to door sellers to front desk officers, cultured bankers to pilots, hardly any field is left untouched!
On the front this seems like good progress, but if we look at the bigger picture, aren’t we missing something? A society full of female workers- will it be an Islamic society? Or a balanced one? Even the broad minded, completely accommodating West had reservations to the Feminist movement launched for equal rights of female folks esp. for the working women. In an Islamic country where a woman cannot head an organization, a female leader was elected PM twice and same goes for Bangladesh, but do we see such example in US or UK elected govt.?Let’s dive deep into the pool of emancipation surrounded by an Islamic state.
The Story ~!~
Most girls pass out of their Grad schools, studying in co-education, confident and focused about their careers and future life. Since a lot of money has been spent on their graduation expenses, they want to make it up to their parent’s financial efforts, at least before their marriage. They strive hard for a job and quickly land a reasonable one. With the first 3 salaries, comes a brand new mobile, a drastic change in wardrobe, from the push-cart stock to branded cotton, and the drawing room furniture goes on the verge of a make-over to invite office colleagues. After the firstyear the girl decides she can no longer wake up early for office van or come back late in taxis. A new 800CC car is brought on installments. 2 years pass by and the girl starts investing in bonds, certificates and plots etc., to rent or buy later. The fulfillment of her small dreams, keep egging her to pin hopes on higher ones.
2 more years down the road and she starts having status clash with the residents of her middle class locality. A flat in the posh district becomes her target. With the easy house-financing offered by banks and a bank balance of 4-5 lacs she could actually sell their house and start living in a flat. And then one day they move out, never to look back to their locality or neighbors - sometimes even relatives. Everything becomes a ‘story of the past’- a skeleton in the closet- that is securely looked with the key thrown away.
She is now 26. The proposals start flooding in and her mom starts getting conscious of her age factor. The girl however, had been dreaming of a grand living and a status uplift by marrying in a higher class, but their family was still shackled by their backgrounds and the posh proposals could sense the difference just by talking to her parents and eventually backed out. Soon she got married to an upper-middle family, against her wishes. The guy earned slightly above her pay-scale and owned a family car. From a flat that she owned with the master bedroom to herself she went into a joint family system with a double bedroom as her only property! Feeling claustrophobic and pressurized, she now applied for a better job. Backed by her experience, she started earning more than her husband. Their status difference became more conspicuous and so did her frustration for not getting her dream life. They could not yet afford a maid and she did not have time for household chores after her very demanding new job. She expected her husband to help her with it or at least look after his personal things himself.The joint family pressures were building up from all around as eyebrows got raised at the couple’s division of homework. They decided to move out. Another apartment bought on lease by her after selling out the property she had been investing in since the past 6 years. This meant total rule on her part. She owned the house and the bills were shared.
Five years down the road, 2 kids had bounced in their lives and life took an ugly turn when her husband lost his stable yet non-managerial job, as a result of downsizing. She was however progressing gradually, becoming the HR manager of her company, being offered a brand new 1000CC car and other fringe benefits. On the other hand, while going on job hunts through websites, her husband became a domestic father. In the absence of an all-time available mother, the children became more attached to the father and also spoilt to some extent. She considered herself almost free of child rearing duties as she was financially supporting the household and expected her husband to adjust to this role-reversal.
After 2 long years, he finally got the job. From then on, they never had a good night’s sleep. Who was to look after the children? Who would provide pick and drop? Look after their studies? Who to leave them to? She had become pretty dominating by then. The children grew up seeing a passive decision power of their father, which earned him their sympathy and little respect. While the dominating and alienating attitude of their mother earned her neither their respect nor sympathy- even though she toiled each day as a woman in a man’s world; only for them.
A woman who had to face office politics at work simply because she was hard-working and intelligent enough to take the managerial positions from right under the nose of senior colleagues;
A woman who compromised her femininity by choosing to be a daughter who supports her father and family;
A woman who traded her dreams by marrying below her expectations; A woman who lived in a joint family system, supporting her husband financially and still opting for motherhood.
Yet, a woman who only lapsed on the designated duties of a full-time mother? What went wrong?
Who was to lose and how much? What was there to lose in the heavy bargain?
A girl who compromised the best days of her to life to secure a bright future, got what in return? A domesticated husband, detached children and her own frustrated soul? Was this the future she dreamt of?
As Muslims, we all claim to keep away from the forbidden boundaries of ‘haram’, but what about the ones that are not so clear? That are left on our discretion to draw and abide by? Man and woman were not created equal and are not designated with equal tasks by the Almighty. It is not forbidden for them to work shoulder to shoulder with men (as the wives of the Holy Prophet (PBUH) did help the Sahabas in gathering Ahadith and Sunnah). But at the same time it is not preferred. That boundary is left to us. Extending it, stretching it by emphasizing that Shariah does not forbid it “It’s not haram”, “It’s the need of the hour for a working couple to live in times of recession”- is actually playing with the boundaries given to us to accommodate our needs and wants.
Humans- male or females- are drawn towards the luxuries of life; grand living, freedom of choice. We are also prone to greed and corruption, mentally and monetarily. When Islam talks about or promotes a woman working safely in the boundaries of her home, it actually promulgates a satisfied female who is apt for this job more than man; a woman who is the Queen of her Empire- everyday, not getting disrespected by males in the ugly world outside.Islam talks about the woman’s whole life. It does not emphasize temporary pleasure, in this case, the facilities she enjoys as a happily earning female, working shoulder to shoulder with men and changing her future lifestyle to accommodate her aspirations.
One woman, 10 women and then 60% of the population is enough to bring about women revolution in the country that has promoted a hi-fi culture ranging from club memberships to mobile late night packages for women, lawn extravaganzas, shopping malls, face uplift treatments, brand culture, kitty parties etc. to flaunt your stuff at. It has also promoted freedom of youth in a negative way because of unattended upbringing and high media influence. One woman, one mother and one thought changes all!As Napoleon Bonaparte says, “Give me a good mother, I will give you a good nation” and “the hand that rocks the cradle rules the world”. A mother plays a great role in shaping the future of a nation. It is also said that, ‘if you educate a mother, you educate the whole nation’.
I am not against an educated, working mother, but doing job for the sake of your careers and actually believing that focusing on child nurturing will rust away your talents; reasoning that quality time wins over quantity time while thinking your kids will be cared for by their nannies till you return home is sheer folly! The channels they switch on, the mobiles they have, the feelings they hide when moving towards adolescence can only be monitored with your undivided love. Remember, you give birth to your children not your products or services. Your parent company can fire you, but you can’t abandon your kids. Your job evaluation gives you an A+ rating, but your children judge you negatively in the long run. Is that all worth it?
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So, what do you think about this article? Do you think that having a career can be a bad thing? Do you think that women who are home makers or domestic engineers are wasting their time? do you think that women who have careers are wasting their time? Is it better for Muslim women to work or stay at home? Which one do you do?