"If you don't have anything nice to say, don't say anything at all", I'm sure this is something that we have all heard before. The important question is do we realize how important it is and what it means to guard our tongues?
“Not a word is said except that there is a watcher by him ready to record it” (Quran 50:18). Every single thing that we say is recorded whether it's good or bad. On the day of judgment when we go before Allah(swt) the angels will read EVERYTHING that we said from the book of deeds. It can be so easy to get caught up in the day to day conversations we have, so much so that we don't realize how important what we say is or how it can effect us. When you say something negative about someone, or something that is not true we will be held accountable for it. We will end up wishing that we had never said it.
The Prophet(saw) said, “Whoever believes in Allah and the Last Day should speak good or keep silent”(Bukhari and Muslim).
Another hadith states "The best of all Muslims is one whose tongue and hand others are protected from(Muslim). Are we doing our best every chance we get to make sure that we are among the best? When we are around people talking about someone else do we join in or laugh along with them? Even if we don't say anything it's just the same as condoning it! If you hear someone talking about someone else don't be noisy and participate. Would you want someone to backbite and slander you? How would you feel if you knew that people were talking about you behind your back or spreading your business with others?
We also have to mindful of what type of language we use when we speak. The Prophet(saw) was not one who would abuse (others) or say obscene words, or curse (others)..."(Bukhari).
Things to keep in mind:
Make sure that we are concerning ourselves with the enjoining the good and forbidding the evil
Don't backbite, don't slander, don't use foul language and stop being nosey!!!
Nadira & Najwa