Wednesday, February 18, 2009

You're ready to get married... now what?

You have reached a point in your life were you've decided your ready to get married for the sake of Allah, alhumdulillah! Now the question is: How do you choose your husband? Well, first things first you have to know what you SHOULD be looking for in a husband.

I know so many sisters who have a very very very detailed list of what exactly they are looking for. These lists include info such as how much money he makes, what type of car he drives, what level of education he has, what type of house will he be able to buy her, will he be able to take her on vacations, will he provide her money to shop with, his nationality, his height, his hair, his skin color, the arch of his eyebrows, how big his ears are, if his 2nd toe is longer than the rest........okay I'm exaggerating a bit now. My point is so many times I see sisters put the emphasis of their search solely on the monetary aspects or they limit their options to doctors and lawyers. My dear sisters, you are doing yourself a great disservice if you approach you search for a husband focusing on material things. The Prophet (saw) said:

“If there comes to you one whose religious commitment and character pleases you, then marry [your female relative who is under your care] to him, for if you do
not do that, there will be tribulation on earth and much corruption.”[Al-Tirmidhi]

Of course you want your husband to be able to provide for you because that is one of your rights, but more importantly you want to make sure that he is religious. You want to make sure that he is living every day for the sake of Allah. This is the type of man who you will want to spend the rest of your life with. This is the type of man who will encourage both success in this life and in the hereafter. If he does not have a lot of money, don't worry sisters. If you trust in Allah, he will provide. We know this from the following verse:

"If they be poor, Allah will enrich them out of His Bounty. And Allah is All‑Sufficient for His creatures’ needs, All‑Knowing (about the state of the
people)”[al-Noor 24:32]

Don't pass on a good brother because he's not "ballin" or "paid". With that said there is nothing wrong with wanting to marry a doctor, lawyer, etc. just make sure that is not #1 on your list of the ideal husband. Now if you find a doctor, lawyer, etc. who is pious and lives every day for the sake of Allah, please post where you found him and where other muslimahs should go for duplicates of him! LOL...just kidding.

To sum it all up sisters, seek a husband who puts his deen first and foremost in his life and then worry about everything else. If you do inshallah everything else will fall in to place. One last note is to broaden you search, you have plenty of options available to you! Look further than down the street and around the corner. You never know what city, state or country your future husband may be in or is from. I here sisters say there's no brothers out there, but there are plenty of Muslim men and you may want to consider being a co-wife (not for every sister, but it's a option). Inshallah, we will talk more about this in another blog.

As usual this is our viewpoint at M2M and we would love to her your opinion, feedback and suggestions.

As-salaamu alaikum!


Tuesday, February 17, 2009

Muslimah Perspective

This is the first of many series of videos concerning many topics discussing religion, society, politics, fashion and relationships. It is a series called "the Muslimah Persective" it can be found on on YouTube at Help support the Muslimah Perspective by sharing with your friends and finding us on YouTube! Feel free to leave comments on whether or not you agree with this video. As-Salaamu-Alaikum!

The "Hijabi Recessionista"- Being halal and in style on a budget

Okay, so we know that covering is something that is prescribed for us, and there is a lot of info out there on covering and a lot of options available to muslimahs. We have over garments, hijab, niqab and for a lot of sisters the everyday clothes in your wardrobe. We've seen a lot of sites/blogs that show you how to pull a outfit together that is fabulous but a lot of times the items are a little pricey. Were going to show you how to be a "Hijabi Recessionista" inshallah.

This is our Find of the Week: It's a maxi dress that will be perfect for spring and summer but can also be worn year round. It comes in regular, petite and tall. It's also comes in other colors as well. You can pair this with a undershirt and a light cardigan, your favorite khimar and you're good to go.

Dress can be found at $29.99 plus s&h

Happy Shopping!

Monday, February 16, 2009

Welcome to M2M!

Ahlan wa sahlan! Welcome! Bienvenidos! Welkom! Merhaba! Marhaban! Kanani n'oumagner! Dobre doshli! Khosh aamadid!
Bienvenue! Willkommen! Barka dá zuwá! Aloha mai! Swaagatam! Nej tuaj los! Benvenuto! Irashaimasu! Yeya! Bisimallah! Salam alaikum!
E kaabo! Chào mung! Hos geldiniz! Soo dhawoow!
Benvinutu! Bun venit! Ji ayan nun! Khosh aamadid!

Asalaamu alaikum!

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Prayer in America

Here in America, life is centered around Christianity and does not cater to the muslimah. Unlike in many Islamic countries, there are no azaans being heard or businesses closing for prayer. There is no constant reminder of Islam around us so we have to remind ourselves. Some muslimahs may find it difficult to continue their every day work, school and/or house duties and still be able to make all five prayers with the focus and diligence that is necessary for it to actually be accepted by Allah (swt). Some of us may also feel ashamed or frightened to be seen making salat because if the stigmas that America has on Muslim women. Here are at Muslimah2Muslimah, we feel as though we must take a stand on how we are viewed in today's society. Prayer is one of the five pillars of Islam and it plays a very important role in our lives as Muslim women.

When your are at work or school it may be hard to make your prayer on time with so much going on. Try to make sure that your every day dress is what you can pray in and that will make it easier for you. If you are a non hijabi, we encourage to you to cover, however if you are not there yet keep a scarf or a prayer garment on you. Sometimes it can also be hard to find a suitable place to offer your prayer. Some schools have set up prayer rooms but most likely your school or place of work does not have a space set aside for that.
Allah is merciful and we have options available to us, you can find a secluded space or even offer your salat while you are seated. So whether you are in your car or in chair at work you can still try to locate the directions of the Kiblah, make your intentions and offer prayer.

Praying towards the Kiblah is an important practice when making salat. One method is to see where the sun comes from and goes down. This is sometimes quite difficult to find direction where there is a thick cloud cover or sun is at its zenith. Even if one finds out where sun comes out, it still poses some difficulty because the sun does not come out from east in all locations.Another idea is to find out the time at which your shadow points to Kiblah. There is a time in the day during which facing to sun or your shadow can get the exact direction of Kiblah. However, I am not an expert of this method or how to use it, so I am unable to give you any advice on it. The most practical, and fashionable way for a "Hijabi Recessionista" to do this is to purchase a key chain compass. These can be found at almadinatrader for just $5.00!

The Messenger of Allah (saw) has said:
“Prayer is the pillar of your religion and one who intentionally forsakes his prayer has destroyed his religion. And one who does not guard the times of the prayers, shall be made to enter ‘Wayl’, which is a valley in Hell, as Allah, the Exalted, has said: “So woe to the praying ones, who are unmindful of their prayers.” - Sahih Al-Bukhari

Just this quote from our beloved Prophet (saw) shows the extreme importance that prayer has on us all. Insha'allah Allah (swt) knows our intentions and if we make a sincere effort in this regard and pray for his forgiveness when we fall astray then we will be safe from his wrath. Ameen! Now, speaking from a personal experience of my own, as of last year I have begun to be steadfast in making all five of my prayers on time. Once I started this habit, I have been so much more in peace within myself and I find myself making better decisions. Insha'Allah, we are all striving for the Jannah and we all make mistakes unintententionally. Once we undersand how, as women, our actions reflect on all of Islamic society because we are the ones raising the children. If we become better role models for our children and younger brothers, sisters, nieces, nephews and peers by showing them the ways of Islam, Insha'Allah this will help to build our Ummah. Now I'm getting off of the subject... we can delve deeper into this on another post, insha'Allah.

These are the opinions of M2M, but we would love your feedback! Let us know your struggles and how you deal with being diligent with your salat.