Thursday, March 5, 2009

Yo!!!! She has some sexy ears?????!!!!!!

Okay so I've posted a few videos on our YouTube page, well three to be exact(not that many) and I've been getting a lot of positive feedback. However some people have been coming at me about having my ears out. I didn't know my ears had soooooo much power to entice! I feel like I'm making steps in the right direction, sometimes there baby steps of fury but there steps none the less. I've come along way since this time last year, alhumdulilah!

I know that proper hijab involves a lot. It's not just throwing a scarf on your head and keepin it movin. I've seen "hijab" in many forms and worn many myself such as: the ears out, the head wrap, overgarment, khimar with shorts(saw this, didn't do it myself) and niqab. For a while there I even felt that if I put a wig on and my hair was covered it was cool. Actually I knew it was still wrong but somehow it made me feel better about not wearing hijab. I think hijab starts on the inside, correction I know hijab starts on the inside. I'm not gonna put anyone on blast but I know sisters who wear overgarments, khimar and niqab and they wild out more than some sisters I know how are jummah hijabis only. The piont I'm making is you have to first know why you are covering and then enter into a covering mindstate. This means you watch your tongue, your interactions and your thoughts. So make your intentions %100 for the sake of Allah and go from there.

Prophet Muhammad(saw) said, "[Ihsan is] to worship God as though you see Him and if you cannot see Him, then indeed He sees you." (Al-Bukhari and Al-Muslim).

I know that I should cover my ears and inshallah I will get to that point soon and honestly, I do appreciate the reminders. We all need reminders sometimes. Let me know what you think.....

Asalaamu alaikum

PS. I think the reason I struggle with this so much is I think earrings really complete and outfit. Even if your just wearing jeans and tee, throw some fabulous earrings on and tell me that's not an upgrade!!! lol Not an excuse I know, I'm working on it.

Shot out to Aneesah, who put me onto the upgrade of fabulous earrings!!

To pluck or not to pluck... that is the question!!!

Okay, so I was talking to my sister-in-law and also got inspired by a comment on one of my favorite blogs called "The Life of a Hijabista". Now in this blog, the sister was talking about how she learned how to thread her eyebrows. Also, my sister-in-law was told by one of her friends that women are forbidden to pluck, thread, shave, wax, burn off (okay, I'm taking it far with that one, lol)... basically grooming eyebrows are unlawful in Islam. Now, I have personally heard it from all angles. I've heard people say everything from this scholar to this sheikh to that hadith or ayat of Qur'an about whether a woman is or is not allowed to alter the shape of her brows.

Now personally, I have been getting my bi-weekly eyebrow wax since I was 16 years old. I know that I happen to have darn near a uni-brow otherwise and absolutely feel just pure mannish without having nice, shapely, feminine brows. Not to mention the fact that I think I might scare my husband by looking like the pic on the top left!!! Islam is my religion that I love so much and has been since birth. Sometimes I feel as though people take it a bit far to the left side of this and hardly ever come up with any valuable proof, or dalil regarding certain matters. I have no intention of purposely defying what Allah makes halal or haram but I would like to hear your opinions regarding this matter.

I think wearing a hijab and clothing that does not show off the shape of my body is taking a huge step. Not to mention not wearing polish, perfume (as some say), high heels (as some say) or wearing makeup (as some more say, lol). Now after I am stripped of all of my feminine vices, can I not just go and enjoy having my big, manly eyebrows waxed??? Am I asking too much here??? Okay, sorry... Comments please?



Monday, March 2, 2009

Hijabi Recessionista: FIND OF THE WEEK: The Muslimah Nail Polish!!!

Who doesn't love a good mani-pedi? But whats the point when you know that you're not supposed to wear polish. We love the look of manicured nails and have also found it hard to let those acrylics and polish go but alhumdulilah we have found an alternative! We've all seen henna on nails which has the classic red-orange color which you may not want to wear all the time. You might what to keep up with the trends and maybe try a black, green or just a simple pink. No matter what color you want, you can find it in a nail stain on this site: www.Henna

The nail stains are $14.95, which may seem a little pricey but it will last a lot longer than your average polish. So your nails can look right and your wudu is still valid. Think about it: a mani-pedi can cost at least $50.00 per month! You can be creative and mix colors and patterns or keep it simple. If you want the shine like a polish lightly buff your nails & you get the same appearance. Keep in mind that it is a stain, so you will have what ever color you choose for a while. This is the best invention since the shirt-dress!!! Well anyhow, we are definitely excited!

Happy Shopping!!!
Asalaamu alaikum
Nadira & Najwa

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Muslimah Perspective: There aren't any good men out there!!

Muslimah Social Lives....avoid the dunya

As muslimahs in the West, some of us are stuck between two worlds, in a sense. We live in a predominantly non-muslim society that enjoys many of the things which are forbidden in Islam. Dating, partying, drinking, doing drugs, fornication, skimpy clothing, explicit lyrics in music, cursing and overall bad behavior has become the norm here in the west. Those of us who were raised in an Islamic household find ourselves loving our religion and knowing the truth, yet reverting to and enjoying the easy, fast life in the West. Those of us who are converts to Islam may find the transition difficult at first and difficult to maintain.

As muslim girls and women, we have even greater expectations then our male counterparts to be the consummate muslim woman in every facet of the word. Meaning we are expected to look, smell, and in some instances even sound like the perfect muslim woman. What I mean by looking like is, of course, the Islamic dress. By smell, I mean some people saying that muslimahs are not allowed to wear perfumes. By sound I am talking about some people's perspective on whether or not a woman should speak quietly or even disguise their voices around men.

When we put all of these things in mind, we now have a woman who has the knowledge of how she should behave in society and how she may desire to behave. Some feel as though as long as they are wearing their khimars that they should be able to go anywhere they please. Also, they feel as though they can date as long as there is no fornication involved and wear wigs on their heads as long as their heads are covered. The prophet(saw) said:

"Allah (swt) has cursed both the Wasilah and the Mustawsilah (meaning the wig-wearer and the wig-maker.

So " covering" your hair with a wig is not an option. Wearing your khimar is not only a source of protection it is also a constant reminder. If you are considering going somewhere are being around people were you can't wear your khimar because it wouldn't be appropriate, then these are the places and people you should avoid.

It's important that we try our best not to get caught up in the dunya. While the clubs and partying may seem tempting, they ultimately lead us further and further away from Allah(swt). Our time in this world is very limited and we will be faced with many tests. The pleasures of the dunya will be very tempting because of the way our society portrays them. In television shows, commercials and magazines these short term pleasures are portrayed as glamorous and the women leading these lives seem happy. This sort of lifestyle will not provide you lasting rewards. Shaytan tempts us with this lifestyle and Allah(swt) has warned us:

" Follow not the footsteps of Shaytan. Verily! He is to you a plain enemy" in Surah

Consider options available to you such as hanging out with your girlfriends, going to the movies, going out to eat and attending Islamic functions. There are many outlets for what we may call "halal socializing" which can be found through the Muslim Student Association at your local college or university. Also, there is the Islamic Circle Of North America and The Islamic Society of North America (I.S.N.A.) Many of our local masjids have plenty of activities for young muslims. Try to be more involved with masjids in your area. This is a great way to meet new muslims in your age range with similar interests. In my opinion I find it is best to socialize with other muslims as opposed to non-muslims for the simple reason that you won't be as tempted to do un-islamic things when you are with muslim peers. In the Qur'an it states:

"O you who believe! Do not take for intimate friends from among others than your
own people, they do not fall short of inflicting loss upon you; they love what distresses you; vehement hatred has already appeared from out of their mouths,
and what their breasts conceal is greater still; indeed, We have made the
communications clear to you, if you will understand." Surah 3:118

Once again sisters, Allah knows best and if we make a sincere effort to follow by the examples of the Sahabiah (rah), He will be pleased with us, inshallah.

Asalaamu alaikum
Najwa & Nadira

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