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Monday, February 21, 2011

The Mind of Man... Why You Should Wear Hijab...


We recieved an email from a reader who had the following to say about women who do not observe hijab:


If you are not covering:


a- I cannot differanciate between you and that non muslimah.


b- When I court you and find out later that you are a muslimah, I will not continue
with you because you're hipocrate.


c- You are causing passers by to trip and fall down as a result of looking at you. Just imagine how many accidents are happening because of you! Allah must you! judge you.


d- That man is going to divorce his wife just because he has seen your beauty. Allah must judge you.


e- That man is late to go to work just because he was watching your beauty. Allah must judge you.


f- That sick man is masturbating in front of you,just because he has seen your beauty. Allah must judge you.


g- That man has lost his abolution a result of your exposure in public. Allah must judge
you.


So, ladies, what do you think about this? Do you think this is true or false? Do you think that these are valid points the brother has pointed out or not? Let us know by leaving your comments below...

29 comments:

  1. I might agree with A. But the rest is total... I'm not even going to comment on that. I might be a hijabi, but I still find his point of view offensive. First, that is not the "mind of man" but rather of one particular individual. 'cuz let me tell yah, if he masturbates because he's seethe hair of a sister, he has lots of masturbating to do in a non-Muslim country. As a final note, if this causes him to masturbate, this brother has a really weak iman and Should consider lowering his gaze.

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  2. Darn it, Haha forgive the grammatical errors, I'm on my iPod touch.

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  3. I'm sorry but I hope I never come across this man in real life. Seriously, I'm sick of all of the burden being placed on women's shoulders. If a man divorces his wife because he sees another woman's hair (if we're talking about hijab in the headscarf sense) or even another woman's body (if we're talking about women who do not dress modestly) then that man is very weak to not uphold the responsibilities of a marriage due to simply seeing another woman. I also think it's preposterous to think a man would divorce on the grounds of seeing another woman w/out hijab anyway. If said woman advances on the man and this leads to divorce, then Allah will judge her and Allah knows best. But if this woman is minding her own business and dressing as modestly as she sees fit, then I do not believe any of the blame should be placed on her. The above hypothetical men should LOWER THEIR GAZE. Perhaps this man should worry more about his own judgment than that of uncovered women.

    If my husband, a born and raised Muslim, ever used this reasoning on me I would be so angry I would rip my scarf off and burn it in front of him, astaghfirullah. Thankully, Alhumdullilah, he knows the true reasoning behind hijab (Allah commanded it, it shows others you respect yourself, thus grants you their respect, etc.) and did not use any of this "protection from men" argument.

    I wear hijab most of the time, although I still do not have the courage around my family. I see the benefits of it and highly recommend it. But this man's logic is sexist and makes men the "innocent victims" to women's beauty.

    Give. me. a. break.

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  4. Salaams,
    It's because of weak men like him(I can't call him my brother)that alot of American women don't cover at all. Sometimes I myself think why bother to cover because it seems like way to much pressure on us women all the time, when will these silly lowdown dirty dogs that call themselves muslin men lower their gaze and stop playing the poor victims to womens beauty!

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  5. It's pretty cut an dry we cover because or lord Allah wants us to

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  6. I want to ditto MuslimJedi and Nikki.
    That kind of attitude makes me sick.

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  7. I agree 100% with Nikki << Thank you!

    Why is all the baggage being placed on women. Do we women go round commanding our muslim men should grow and maintain beards, dress modestly and keep their trousers short? Hell no!

    I can't stand it when I hear this que. 'How is a muslim man supposed to recognise another muslim woman?' << the same way a muslim woman recognises a muslim man!

    We're all supposed to be lowering our gazes instead of checking people out for goodness sake!

    Allah knows best.

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  8. WOOOOOOWWW...!
    Ok, a Muslimah's mind:
    a-ok
    b-I must say you ARE the hypocrite, because you're going around trying to court non-muslims, so why would that muslim sis be the hypocrite? Lower your gaze and stop hitting on random women!
    c-Tripping and falling because they are looking at a woman...I myself would like to see that woman causing so many accidents!!! Allah will judge you too for causing accidents because you couldn't lower your gaze!
    d- You have no reasons going around and "looking at women's beauty"...and you will have to answer to Allah for that and if yo are going to end your marriage because of that, you were never truly married in the first place with such weak self-control!
    e- You need to go about your business and get to instead of salivating over random women!
    f- One word: EWWWWWW!! Get help you sicko!
    g-Pray for yourself, because indeed you are weak!

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  9. Assalaam waliekum, that was so sick. What Muslim or even decent God-fearing man would post some sick, projective crap like that?

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  10. Thats so offensive for women in Islam!blaming everything on women! Allah knows the best! but part A for true but others? Just because a girl is beautiful and a guy looks at her and falls for or does unwanted stuff it doesn't mean its the girls fault.Its all upto their heart and if that girls heart was pure and if she was being modest then of course it wouldn't be her fault.Like I said Allah knows the best. God created us all equally and all we should do is lower our gaze and have modesty. DO NOT UNDER ESTIMATE WOMEN !

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  11. I sort of agree with A; it's definitely easier to recognize someone as a Muslimah if they're wearing hijab. I honestly snickered as I looked at his other arguments; these are outrageous, incredibly sexist and offensive to both women and men (it perpetuates the stereotype that men, especially Muslim men, are sex-starved, perverted, and have no control over themselves). This guy needs to seriously examine his views and start learning respect for both men and women Insha'Allah.

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  12. I agree with point A but I'm not too convinced the rest of the points. They sound a bit exaggerated, if you ask me. Allahu Alim.

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  13. It sounds to me like he is trying (and failing) to be funny. Some of the reasons are just too ridiculous to take seriously. LOL

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  14. It's obvious to me that a sociopathic mind wrote this. The author does NOT appear to be Muslim, only one of those muslimah/hijabi-hating anons that are rampant on the net. It's just another one of THOSE that deserve to be ignored. His "language" gives him away. For example, "...I can not differentiate (he can't even spell it!) between you and that non-muslimah," and "when I court you & find out later that you are a muslimah..." You mean, YOU WOULDN'T KNOW THAT BEFORE?!!! He sounds like he's got a pretty ACTIVE imagination going on acording to "c", "e", "f", and "g." This was NOT written by a "brother."

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  15. Assalamualeikum all. We must remember that some of these unfortunately DO take place by some really sick people out there. But the above points are DEFINITELY not encouraging for the young muslimah who is struggling to choose between whether or not she should start wearing hijaab. Alhamdulillah, I'm 15 and started wearing hijaab 4 years ago, but if I'd read this back then, I'd have stayed far away from hijaab, I'm sure of it. This just scares people away. The ONE and ONLY reason as to why a sister should wear hijaab is for Allah swt's sake.

    FiamanAllah

    The Creative Muslimah @ www.thecreativemuslimah.blogspot.com

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  16. Al Salam Alaykum
    Honestly I can't tell about the ablution part, from the view point of Islamic jurisprudence. Also, he puts all the blame on the woman, and does not mention that Allah commanded the men first to lower their gazes and guard their private parts. And how can he say that a non hijabi is a hypocrite? Isn't that something only Allah knows as it is in her heart? Maybe she's afraid and apprehensive like many sisters and needs some advice and counsel? Maybe she doesn't know hijab is fard?
    In order for modesty to prevail in society, there must be collaborative effort between the sisters and the brothers. You lower your gaze, respect me, guard your chastity and I do the same with my hijab on. Also, people should pay attention what they say because there are many young muslimahs out there (like Creative Muslimah said) who are struggling and might be scared off, we want them to love hijab.

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  17. this is the stupidest thing I've ever read, the reason to wear hijab is because Allah SWT says so in the Quran plain and simple...sorry but this post is garbage

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  18. assalaamu alaikum wa rahamathullaahi wa bara kaaththuhu,

    What a junk opinion he sent. Purely one sided. What about his gaze? Allah (swt) commanded both genders to lower their gaze.isn't that true?

    May Allah(swt) save us from people like him.

    Allah commanded women to wear hijab...thats it. full stop.

    if few women have hard time in wearing it then it is between them and Allah(swt). Surely HE knows best.

    HE is most forgiving and merciful...

    Islam is simple. When will people like him understand this basic/beautiful thing?...frustrating

    thanks,

    your brother,
    aashiq ahamed

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  19. Maryam,

    Salaam to all,
    I agree with a. But i dont think the rest of the points are convincing and encouraging enough for a muslimah who really needs to know and understand the essence on puting on hijab.

    This brother should please go back for 80% refund from his Mu'allim for a better studies.

    Jazza kallahu Khairan

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  20. This man's entire viewpoint made me facepalm immensely. Why is is MY fault? Fool, don't you have to learn self control as well? Furthermore, if you're whipping your junk out in public over some hair, non-Muslims and Muslims alike will think you're crazy.

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  21. Hogwash! He wouldn't trip & fall if his gaze is lowered as it should be. That idea does make women "responsible " for mens' behavior- which, again, is hogwash! Islam freed women - indeed - but patriarchy has & continues to subjugate women all over the world.

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  22. ppl like him can say that because girl with hijab make dem ! girls make those standards but i know its for them self and their iman. but not all these men have the iq to understand why we want to waer hijab or not.

    I wish we could have a internasjonal day where every hijabi would take it off for 1 day to show the men who are thinking so cheap what the truth is.

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  23. Salamalaykum,

    Ok d guyz write-up was funny I agree and yes he should lower his gaze and try stregthen his iman. But 1stly dat article or that kind of thot shouldn't deter any woman from wearing d hijab let alone remove it cmon dats his problem not urs.

    2ndly ladies d hijab also preserves d beauty of women, note d hijab really is not just the head covering but also loose garments that don't reveal women's bodies like jeggins and all.

    Lastly ladies pls men that have such a mentality have a disease of the heart, and believe me a lot of men do...muslim or not majority of men oogle at women even wit d hijab on. And don't forget that the angels curse the women who do not over up in front of men that their right hand doesn't posess.

    May Allah strengthen our Iman and guide believing minds to true islam

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  24. Salamalaykum,

    Ok d guyz write-up was funny I agree and yes he should lower his gaze and try stregthen his iman. But 1stly dat article or that kind of thot shouldn't deter any woman from wearing d hijab let alone remove it cmon dats his problem not urs.

    2ndly ladies d hijab also preserves d beauty of women, note d hijab really is not just the head covering but also loose garments that don't reveal women's bodies like jeggins and all.

    Lastly ladies pls men that have such a mentality have a disease of the heart, and believe me a lot of men do...muslim or not majority of men oogle at women even wit d hijab on. And don't forget that the angels curse the women who do not over up in front of men that their right hand doesn't posess.

    May Allah strengthen our Iman and guide believing minds to true islam

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  25. Totally hate to even think of these sick perverts. Allah ask us to cover our Aurah, yes, to prevent social illness but lets not blame 100% the women. Men should be held responsible as well.

    on a lighter note, visit www.alshamaabaya.blogspot.com to get the most beautiful dresses for your fashionable Muslimah you!

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  26. Asalaam alaykum!

    I totally beg to disagree with the writer's point-of-view. I have not been a muslimah upto a year and infact as much as I love doing pretty things with my scarf (might I add that I look more beautiful in a scarf too than without), I choose not to wear it because that is when (muslim) men flock around making me very uncomfortable.

    Uncomfortable for me as some are married and seek to take me as an additional wife and I think the unmarried ones are just overwhelmed that someone so beautiful is covering-up. Forgive me (this might be ignornce on my part or maybe something to do with hailing from an African background and having spent all my life in the UK); but my whole life has been a series of cherished memories even as a christian and my parents and families raised us with such discipline. Bottom-line is I know a lot of gentlemen and disciplined ones too and I can firmly say Islam or not, they do not think like the writer has written.

    As a lady, muslimah or not we would not allow for indecent thoughts or stay in inappropriate places. Infact one of the first things I learnt as a muslimah was "AOOTHU BILLAHI MINASH SHAYTANIR RAJEEM"! Maybe we should individually do more to banish evil thoughts rather than blame our indecent minds and thoughts on other's actions. We can ALL consciously avoid bad things if we make it a point to do so. I know muslim brothers who only meet their fiancees on Mondays and Thursdays whilst fasting and always with a chaperone.

    So my dearest and senior muslimahs, ignorant or inexperienced I might be; but there are good men with good thoughts out there and we shouldn't let anyone bring us down. I strive everyday to be a better muslimah and welcome any prayers and words of advice.

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  27. Really? Give.Me.A.Break! and F makes me sick!

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  28. Am I to be judged when men and women alike run into walks and trip over children in order to stare at my hijab. I heard my years ago, "hijab your heart". Hijab is not just how you dress, its how you carry yourself, with modesty and dignity. If I have done what Allah swt has commanded of me in this respect, I cannot carry my brother's sin.

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