Muslimah2Muslimah: New Shahaadah Interview : Crystal!!!

In Muslimah2Muslimah's experience of reverts to Islam, we think the transitions of one's thoughts, opinions, and behavior, in fact a whole transformation of one's perspective in life is very interesting. Crystal is one of our tweeters(is that what you call them) on Twitter and our friends on our Facebook recently became a Muslimah. She is an amazing new sister, alhumdulilah.

The negative image presented about Islam since 9-11 here in the states has really given Islam a bad name due to the media as well as people's lack of understanding. The stereotypes about the treatment of women has been rampant in the media for many years with the Taliban and other "extremist" groups. We thought it would be interesting to interview Crystal, who in the midst of all propaganda has warmly embraced Islam and get her Muslimah's Perspective on Islam...



Muslimah2Muslimah: What is your name?

Crystal: Crystal D. Murphy

Muslimah2Muslimah: What made you become interested in Islam?

Crystal: I started studying Islam some years ago. I was introduced on a whim by a guy I was seeing who to my surprise told me he was a Muslim. I immediately said "oh so you don't eat pork and you think all white people are the devil"? He then told me the difference between Islam and the Nation of Islam. I did some research and was close to reverting but my family was really upset so I backed away and from Islam and moved forward in Christianity.

Muslimah2Muslimah: What does your family think about your decision?

Crystal: At this point only my mother and brother know and they both think I'm crazy. My mother thinks I'm searching for something. She's not happy about my decision but she's dealing with it.

Muslimah2Muslimah:What types of reactions have you gotten from your friends or coworkers?

Crystal: The friends that know so far have had very positive reactions. My co-workers are not aware at this time but I'm sure they will have a lot of questions because they all know I was a devout Christian.

Muslimah2Muslimah: How has Islam changed your life?

Crystal: I have a very strong peace. I'm learning to not be so judgmental a person has to answer to Allah it's not for me to judge.

Muslimah2Muslimah: What advice would you give to someone who is interested in Islam?

Crystal: Islam is a wonderful religion. Do your research Muslims are very excited and willing to help you.

Muslimah2Muslimah: Islamically, women are required to wear a hijab. Others say that you must also cover your face(niqab). What are your thoughts on this?

Crystal: I believe it's a process and it's wear your heart is in the matter. InshAllah I'll be strong enough to completely make the change but at this point I'm praying for the courage because it is a very big change for me. I do believe hijab is the right thing because it is required.

Muslimah2Muslimah: How did you feel the first time you wore hijab?

Crystal: You know I bought some hijab scarfs for a trip I was taking to Africa. I was not a Muslim at the time but the first time I saw myself in it I knew something was right about it.

Muslimah2Muslimah: What is your opinion on the common labels associated with Muslims ("terrorists", "extremists" , etc.)?

Crystal: I think those labels are ridiculous. I think people look at what a few people did and want to label and whole group from what a few did. People have been killing people in the name of God for centuries and those people include Christians and Catholics so I don't think it's right to persecute a whole religion on the acts of a few.

Muslimah2Muslimah: What is your view on the impression that many non-Muslims have that Islam oppresses the women and the women have no voice in their communities?

Crystal: As an outsider looking in I honestly have to say I shared this view. That's why it's always good to go to the source. I was very surprised when we went over women's rights in my new Muslimah class.

Muslimah2Muslimah: The media tends to give very negative views on women and many non-Muslims base their views solely on this. What was your view on Islam and the treatment of women before you converted to Islam?

Crystal: Before I converted I believed Islam oppressed women as well. It seemed as if the men did what they wanted and the women just stayed at home and took care of the children. However now attending the Masjid regularly and meeting these women, seeing sisters like Ms. Latifah and Muslimah2Muslimah doing their thing has shown me another side to the life of a Muslimah.

Muslimah2Muslimah: Has your view changed in any way?

Crystal: Absolutely, I no longer see women as being oppressed or Islam as a religion of extremist. I truly understand now the religion of peace that the Muslims have been saying this is.


Muslimah2Muslimah: How have has Muslimah2Muslimah helped you along your journey to Islam?/ How have you benifited from Muslimah2Muslimah?


Crystal: Being a new revert I really enjoyed the piece on Hijab. It is a little rough at first for new converts to begin to change out their clothing. I just converted, I live in Ohio and it's summer. Long sleeve shirts are not readily available. But AlHamdAllah it's working out! I also enjoy seeing young proud Muslim sisters. It helps me to be stronger.

~Insha'allah, everyone... please pray for Sister Crystal and welcome her
into Islam by leaving her your encouragement and wisdom, insha'allah! We are very pleased with her decision as we know she is as well. Crystal, may Allah bless you in all of your endeavors and may He grant you Jannatul Firdaus! Ameen!

Asalaamu alaikum
Najwa & Nadira
Muslimah2Muslimah

NEW WEBSITE............well, sort of

We're in the process of transitioning our Blogspot into our official website, alhumdulilah! Insha' Allah you can find our Blogspot content and more at www.Muslimah2Muslimah.com. Make sure to change your bookmarks and favorites. While we're transitioning you can still pull our page up under www.Muslimah2Muslimah.blogspot.com but that will change soon.

We also have a new email address you can now reach us at mail@muslimah2muslimah.com


Asalaamu alaikum
Nadira & Najwa
Muslimah2Muslimah

Where Are All the Happy Muslimahs???

Have you ever looked on the internet for articles on Muslim women and everything that you saw was negative?

• Honor killings
• Oppression of women
• Beheadings of women
• Hijab is oppressive
• Muslimahs are docile
• Women have no voice in Islam
• Looking beyond the veil

Why is it that society only sees negativity when it comes to Muslimahs? Why are we not seen as contributors to society? Why are there so few Muslim women who speak out about REAL issues in Islam? Why is it that there is a negative connotation anytime you mention a Muslim woman???

Women's Issues: Inner Hijab

Islamic discourse a great deal of emphasis is placed on the issue of hijab for women with much debate about the extent and nature of that covering. This is obviously an important issue for Muslim women, but an equally significant topic is that of Modesty. The Prophet, sallallaahu alayhe wa sallam passed by an Ansari man who was counseling his brother on modesty (He was advising him not to be too much shy or modest). The Prophet said:

"Leave him (and do not advise him like this); for modesty is part of faith."
(Bukhari and Muslim).

The Prophet, sallallaahu alayhe wa sallam, also said,

"Modesty results in good alone and nothing else." (Bukhari and
Muslim).

Modesty is a term that is used often but one that is not clearly understood. One way to conceptualize it would be to think in terms of moving from an outer layer to the inner workings of a system. The covering, or hijab is the surface layer of modesty that everyone sees and that is very obvious to all. However, a woman could wear hijab and modesty may not go any deeper than that; it could be an artificial form of modesty or one done to satisfy another person. Going deeper, the next layer may consist of what is commonly known as self-consciousness or shyness. At this level the woman not only wears hijab, but also acts in a way that is reserved and respectful. An important behavior in this category is lowering of the gaze.

"And say to the believing women that they should lower their gaze and guard their modesty." [24:3 1]

Emphasis is often placed on men lowering their eyes, but this is also a requirement for women. Eyes should be turned away from everything that is forbidden.This includes not looking at any non-mahram man, at the awrah of another woman, or with bad intentions at another person. In one hadeeth qudsi, the Prophet, sallallaahu alayhe wa sallam, reported that Allah, subhanahu wa ta'ala, says,

"Looking at a non-mahram (men relatives to whom women cannot get married to) is one of the poisoned arrows of Satan.Whoever will stop it because of fearing me, I will bless him with such Emaan, the sweetness of which he will feel in his heart" (Tabarani).

Another characteristic at this level is humility in speech. As with everything in Islam, a woman's speech should be in moderation. It should be neither too loud nor too soft (so as to be alluring). Idle, senseless, excessive conversation should be avoided since it has no benefit and distracts from more important responsibilities. When a woman engages in conversation she should keep it decent and respectable and void of such harmful vices as backbiting, mockery, suspicion, and gossip. She should be humble and not boast about her abilities and achievements.

"Successful indeed are the believers who are humble in their salah, and who shun vain conversation, and who are payers of zakat" [23:1-4].

Being placed between two pillars of Islam demonstrates the very significance of this pronouncement.A woman should also attempt to avoid contact and conversation with non-mahram men. When this is necessary, such as for educational purposes or in the work environment, the discussion should be limited to pertinent matters and the woman should speak in a straight-forward and virtuous manner. As with the hijab, these rules of etiquette may be observed for various reasons. The woman may act modestly because of cultural norms, her own innate disposition, or to impress or satisfy other people. This may have no connection whatsoever to the innermost level of modesty as any non-believer may follow the same code of conduct.. The center of this innermost level is the heart, alongside Emaan. A true believing woman does not engage-in these behaviors for other people; rather, she does it for the sake of Allah. She does not do so out of shyness from other people; she does it out of shyness from Allah. She is humble in the presence of Allah because she knows that everything she has, her wealth, her status, her abilities, are only from Him. This understanding highlights the interconnection between modesty and Emaan. The Prophet (pbuh) said,

"Indeed, modesty and Emaan are companions. When one of them is lifted, the other leaves as well." (Baihaqi).

And when this happens, the moral fiber of society is jeopardized.

-Dr. Aisha Hamdan

May Allah reward us with the Imaan in this life so that we may battle the Shaytan and be steadfast in this deen. Ameen.

Najwa & Nadira

Muslimah2Muslimah

Muslimah2Muslimah T-Shirts Coming Soon!!!

Insha' Allah new t-shirts coming soon! We will be giving away gift bags with t-shirts and other goodies(pens, key chains, henna, etc.) randomly to our Blog spot followers and YouTube subscribers. After our first giveaway shirts will be available for sale. Make sure you follow and subscribe to both to increase your chances of getting something for FREE! Let us know what you think. Insha' Allah you like them!!!!!

You can put different color long sleeve shirts under these i.e. pink, white, black or gray

Asalaamu Alaikum
Nadira & Najwa
Muslimah2Muslimah
muslima2muslima@gmail.com

What are you saying to Me? - Common Words and Phrases

Insha' Allah this will be helpful to new shahadahs(and all Muslimahs). When I first took my shahadah I wasn't sure what some of the words, phrases and appropiate responses were. Here are a few common ones, check out our New Shahadah Video on YouTube for the video that goes with this blog(being posted later on today, insha' Allah).

Common Phrases

Asalaamu alaikum - May peace be upon you
Wa alaikum salaam - May peace be upon you too
Asalaamu alaikum wa rahmatuallahi wa barakatu - May the peace and blessing of Allah be upon you
Wa alaikum salaam wa rahmatuallahi wa barakatu - May the peace and blessings of Allah be upon you too
Kaifa halak/Kaifa halik - How are you to a man/How are to a woman?
Alhumdulilah ana bekhair - Thanks be to Allah, I'm fine
Audhu bi allahi min al shaitani rajeem - I seek refuge in Allah from the accursed shaytan
Lā ilāha ill-Allāh - There is no God but Allah
Muhammed rasool Allah - Muhammad is the messenger of Allah
Sallah allahu alayhi wa salaam(saw) - Peace be upon him(say this after you say Prophet Muhammed)
Radhi Allahu anhu - Allah be pleased with him
Subhan wa ta 'ala - Glory be unto the Most High
Alhumdulilah - Thanks be to God
Bismilah - In the name of Allah
Subhan' Allah - Glory be to God
Masha' Allah - As Allah wills
Fisabilillah - For the sake of Allah
Jazakallah khair - May Allah reward you
Insha' Allah - God willing
Allahu akbar - God is Great
Astighfirallah - I seek forgiveness from Allah
Allahu Alum - Allah knows best

Common Words

Shukran - Thank you
Afwan - Your welcome
Masjid - Mosque
Salah/salaat - Prayer/prayers
Dua - Supplication/personal prayer
Wudu - Ablution/purification before prayer
Ghusl - Full wudu
Adhan - Call to prayer
Shahadah - Declaration of faith
Rasool - A messenger, a prophet given scripture
Hajj - Pilgrimage to Mecca once a year
Umrah - Pilgrimage to Mecca not made during the time for hajj
Islam - Submission to Allah
Iman - Faith
Imam - A leader, someone who leads the prayer
Akhira - The hereafter
Dunya - The physical universe, the world around us, worldly
Fitna - Trials/tests
Deen - Religion
Dawah - Call to Islam
Haraam - Forbidden
Halal - Permissible
Fard - Obligatory
Hadith - Sayings or traditions of the prophet (saws)
Sunnah - The example of the prophet (saws)
Na'am - Yes
La - No
Akhi - Brother
Ukhti - Sister
Hijab - Covering
Khimar - Head scarf
Niqab - Face veil
Muhajaba - Woman who wears hijab
Muntaqaba - Woman who wears niqab



Asalaamu alaikum
Nadira
Muslimah2Muslimah

PBS Film "New Muslim Cool" & Concert

This is the official Atlanta Screening of PBS's Dynamic new Film "New Muslim Cool". The screening will be followed by Question and Answer by the Producer & the Star of The Documentary Hamza Perez.

Following this will be a Benefit Concert Featuring: M-Team, HBO Def Poet Amir Sulaiman, Shaheed Tawheed, and Mustafa Abdul-Basit; some of the top Muslim artists in the nation.

About the film:
Puerto Rican American rapper Hamza Pérez ended his life as a drug dealer 12 years ago, and started down a new path as a young Muslim.

Now he’s moved to Pittsburgh’s tough North Side to start a new religious community, rebuild his shattered family, and take his message of faith to other young people through his uncompromising music as part of the hip-hop duo M-Team.

Raising his two kids as a single dad and longing for companionship, Hamza finds love on a Muslim networking website and seizes the chance for happiness in a second marriage.

But when the FBI raids his mosque, Hamza must confront the realities of the post-9/11 world, and challenge himself. He starts reaching for a deeper understanding of his faith, discovering new connections with people from Christian and Jewish communities.

NEW MUSLIM COOL takes viewers on Hamza’s ride through the streets, projects and jail cells of urban America, following his spiritual journey to some surprising places ---where we can all see ourselves reflected in a world that never stops changing.

Please come and join us and bro Hamza on his journey in this film and reflect on our own journeys and those yet to be experienced! This will mark the first of a series of films we hope to bring to the ATL promoting the development of our cultural expression in Islam in North America. All proceeds go to the Risala Institute, Atlanta, Ga.

CHECK OUT THE TRAILER @ http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=leMWi2asGPw

Day:	Saturday, June 6, 2009
Time:	5:00pm - 11:00pm
Location:	Georgia Tech Student Center - Ball Room (3rd floor)
Street:	350 Ferst Dr., N.W.

Tickets are $15 in advance and $20 at the door
Tickets can be purchased at www.risalainstitute.com

Insha' Allah we'll see you there!
Asalaamu alaikum
Nadira & Najwa
Muslimah2Muslimah

What Do You See When You Look At Me?

What do you see when you look at me,

Do you see someone limited, or someone free,

All some people can do is just look and stare,

Simply because they cant see my hair,

Others think I am controlled and uneducated,

They are so thankful that they are not me,

Because they would like to remain ‘free’,

Well free isn’t exactly the word I would’ve used,

Describing women who are cheated on and abused,

They think that I do not have opinions or voice,

They think that being hooded isn’t my choice,

They think that the hood makes me look caged,

That my husband or dad is totally outraged,

All they can do is look at me in fear,

And in my eye there is a tear,

Not because I have been stared at or made fun of,

But because people are ignoring the One up above,

On the Day of Judgment they will be the fools,

Because they were too ashamed to play by their own rules,

Maybe the guys won’t think I am a cutie,

But at least I am filled with more inner beauty,

See I have declined from being a guy’s toy,

Because I won’t let my self be controlled by a boy,

Real men are able to appreciate my mind,

And aren’t busy looking at my behind,

Hooded girls are the ones really helping the Muslim cause,

The role that we play definitely deserves applause,

I will be recognized because I am smart and bright,

And because some people are inspired by my sight,

The smart ones are attracted by my tranquility,

In the back of their mind they wish they were me,

We have the strength to do what we think is right,

Even if it means putting up a life long fight,

You see we are not controlled by a mini skirt and tight shirt,

We are given only respect, and never treated like dirt,

So you see, we are the ones that are free and liberated,

We are not the ones that are sexually terrorized and violated,

We are the ones that are free and pure,

We’re free of STD ’s that have no cure,

So when people ask you how you feel about the hood,

Just sum it up by saying ‘baby its all good’.

-Author Unknown

Story of the Week!!! The Triple Filter Test

In ancient Greece , Socrates was reputed to hold knowledge in high esteem. One day an acquaintance met the great philosopher and said,

"Do you know what I just heard about your friend?"

"Hold on a minute," Socrates replied. "Before telling me anything, I'd like you to pass a little test. It's called the Triple Filter Test."

"Triple filter?"

"That's right," Socrates continued. "Before you talk to me about my friend, it might be a good idea to take a moment and filter what you're going to say. That's why I call it the triple filter test.The first filter is TRUTH. Have you made absolutely sure that what you are about to tell me is true?"

"No," the man said, "actually I just heard about it and..."

"All right," said Socrates. "So you don't really know if it's true or not. Now let's try the second filter, the filter of GOODNESS. Is what you are about to tell me about my friend something good?"

"No, on the contrary..."

"So," Socrates continued, "you want to tell me something bad about him, but you're not certain it's true. You may still pass the test though, because there's one filter left: the filter of USEFULNESS. Is what you want to tell me about my friend going to be useful to me?"

"No, not really."

Socrates Replied;"Well," "if what you want to tell me is neither true nor good nor even useful, why tell it to me at all?"

Advice from our beloved prophet (peace be upon him) to mankind…..Prophet Muhammad, peace be upon him said;

"Do you know what is backbiting?'They (the Companions) said: 'Allah and His Messenger (peace be upon him) know best.Thereupon he (the Prophet (peace be upon him)) said:

"Backbiting implies your talking about your brother (behind his back) in a manner which he does not like.'It was said to him: 'What is your opinion about this that if I actually find (that failing) in my brother which I made a mention of?'He (peace be upon him) said: 'If (that failing) is actually found (in him) what you assert, you in fact backbited (gheebah) him, and if that is not in him it is a slander!" (Nameemah)Sahih Muslim Hadith Hadith 6265 Narrated by Abu Hurayrah

Insha'Allah, this serves as a reminder for all of us to be mindful of the words that we speak. We should always use caution before we say or repeat anything. If you have nothing good to say, keep your mouth shut! We do not want to be amongst the backbiters on the Day of Judgment. May Allah save us from the bad in this life and from the bad in the hereafter. May he bless us all with success in this life and in the next.

Najwa & Nadira

Muslimah2Muslimah

How Cute Is This???

We were browsing through our twitter followers (are they called tweeps, twitterers or something??) and we came across a company called Just Muslim. This company has mostly t-shirts for men but then we noticed a women's section...... and then saw some cute stuff... like this hoodie that has "Muslimah" on the back. And the "Muslimah" t-shirt...

***We wouldn't recommend this t-shirt look for anyplace besides women's events or around the house but it is a cute idea.***


Pricing on these items:
T-shirt: $16.62 US and 10.00 GB Pound
Hoodie: $24.93 US and 15.00 GB Pound
www.justmuslim.co.uk


Happy Shopping!
Najwa & Nadira
Muslimah2Muslimah

We Finally Got A New Logo!!!

It's official guys and gals! Muslimah2Muslimah is on the map!!! Our new logo is official! We are super excited!!! For all of our new subscribers or those of you who have forgotten, here is our old logo:

And here is the new and improved logo done by Izzy of the coolest Muslim social networking site http://www.youracreator.com/...

By the way, if you have yet to join www.youracreator.com be sure to join us there!!! There is a lot to talk about and it is a very interactive site with many different topics and forum discussions relating to any and every issue that we have in the Islamic community. So, anyhow... we are signing off now but be sure to let us know what you think of the new logo as well as the website, insha'Allah!

Much Love,

Najwa & Nadira

Muslimah2Muslimah

On the Hunt for the Perfect Summer Hijabi Swimsuit!?!?!?

Okay, so we are STILL on our hunt for the perfect swimwear that is available out here! It's springtime, darnit and Muslimah2Muslimah wants to take a dive in the ocean! http://www.modestswimandsport.com/ these start at

£50.00 and up... this is British pounds... We are kinda digging the blue one but we think it is a little too form-fitting. The pink one looks way too hot but at least it covers more. We are still searching for the perfect summer swimsuit but in the meantime, we are keeping it simple with a simple yet nice beach outfit that we put together:

Beach style! by Muslimah2Muslimah featuring Monsoon dresses

Click on the picture for pricing and store locations. Hope you all like it and let us know what you think about our swimsuits and beach ideas!

Happy Springtime!

Najwa & Nadira

Muslimah2Muslimah

Mothers Day!

Today is Mother's Day and people across the country are taking this day to tell all the mothers in their life how grateful they are. Alhumdulilah, that is a beautiful thing. However, Muslimah2Muslimah feels that everyday should be Mother's Day.

Mothers have a very special place in Islam. Mothers guide, teach, nurture, comfort and much much more. They do all of theses things on a daily basis and we should show are gratitude for this every day. After all, the Prophet(SAW) said "paradise lies at the feet of the mothers". Meaning through our treatment to our mothers we can achieve Jenna. This is why it's so important that we are kind to them and treat them well.

Another hadith states that a man asked the Prophet (SAW), "Who is most worthy of my love and respect?" The Prophet (SAW)replied, "Your mother." The man asked, "And then who?" The Prophet (SAW) again answered, "Your mother." The man asked one more time and received the same answer. When the man asked the question a fourth time, the Prophet (SAW) answered, "Your father." Both of these hadith show how important Mothers are.

We want to send a special shot out to our Mothers , you are the reason we are the women we are today, you make us better. We love ya'll and we are grateful for you EVERY SINGLE DAY!

Shot out to all the mothers who read this and follow our blog, we love ya'll too!

Asalaamu alaikum
Nadira & Najwa
Muslimah2Muslimah

Some Day May Never Come!!

*this blog is intended as a reminder to myself and insha' Allah to all who read it*

We only have one guarantee in life and that is DEATH! It may seem very blunt but it's very true. Many times we can be very short-sited, particularly as youth(teens-twenties). I have recently experienced a few deaths in my family, some very unexpected, and it has got me thinking. We don't know when are time is going to be up! All we can do is live each and every moment for the sake of Allah. We have to guard our actions, thoughts and words. We have to keep in mind that our most precious gift is our deen and that we will never be perfect, but we can strive for perfection. Many people don't even have Islam in their hearts and we do. We as Muslimahs should never ever take this for granted.

We've said this before and previous blogs but we have made many changes in our lives over the past couple of years. We would say to ourselves that eventually we would do better. Many times we say to ourselves "someday we will do this/that". Such as someday I will wear hijab, someday I will offer salah, someday I will make sunnah salah, someday I will learn more surahs, someday I will learn Arabic, someday I will stop backbiting, someday I will stop clubbin', someday I will be kinder, etc. This list could go on for ever and ever.

BUT THE QUESTION IS: WHAT IF SOMEDAY NEVER COMES?

This could be the very last blog that we post or even the very last blog you read because our time has come! So what do we do? We live each moment likes it's our last. By this we don't mean wild out and "get it in". We mean strive to do what is fisabilillah and "go hard in this deen". We only have one shot and our time here is soooooo short in comparison to the akhirah(afterlife). On the day of judgment we will stand alone and be held responsible for ALL of our actions; good and bad. We can't say "Sister So-and-So talked me into it or Sister So-and-So did it too." We know what we are supposed to do and what we are not supposed to do, we have no excuses! Ignorance is no excuse we should be consistently learning from the cradle to the grave. If we are unsure about something, we should look it up and try to make sure that we are doing what is correct.

We still have many goals that insha' Allah we will be able to achieve but we will sincerely try every single day, hour and minute to do better. May Allah guide us all on al siratul mustaqeem- Ameen.

We must remember Inna lillaai wa inna ilayhi raji'oon(from him we came and to him we will return)

We kept this one short because we will be posting a more detailed video about this topic on YouTube in our next installment so insha' Allah subscribe(click the yellow button) if you haven't already. Here is the link for our YouTube. http://www.youtube.com/user/muslimah2muslimah

Asalaamu alaikum
Nadira & Najwa
Muslimah2Muslimah

Bridesmaids and Music at a Muslim Wedding???

We have been to many Islamic weddings and we have seen many different themes. We see the bride dressed in Indian dresses, traditional white gowns, Abayas, African gowns, some with the woman absent for the nikah (ceremony) and present for the walimah (reception/ marriage feast). The groom usually goes with the flow of the theme: tuxedo and tie for the traditional western theme, kurta suits for the Indian theme, Grande Buba for the African theme, and a thobe for the low-key Islamic theme.

Okay, so the question is; Which way is the Islamic way and how much time, energy and money should we put into our weddings? Should we have bridesmaids? Should we have groomsmen? Should we have a first dance and music? Should we provide alcohol for our non-Muslim guests? Should my dowry be big or small?

The Arabic word Walima (marriage feast) is derived from the root word Walam, which literally means to gather and assemble. The Arabs used it for a meal or feast where people were invited and gathered. Later, the term became exclusive for the wedding banquet.

The Arabs used different terms for the various feasts they enjoyed. For example: al-I’zar on the occasion of a child’s circumcision, al-Khurs for a marriage not ending in divorce, al-Wakira on building a new home, al-Naqi’ah when a traveller returns home, al-Aqiqah on the seventh day after childbirth, al-Ma’duba for a general meal without any specific reason, etc.

The marriage feast (walima) is a Sunna of our beloved Prophet Muhammad (Allah bless him & give him peace). It is an outward expression of gratitude and pleasure and a great means of publicising the marriage, which has been greatly encouraged.

Sayyiduna Anas ibn Malik (Allah be pleased with him) narrates that the Prophet Muhammad(Allah bless him & give him peace) saw a yellow mark on Abdur Rahman ibn Awf (Allah be pleased with) and said: “What’s this?” He replied: “I have married a woman with the dowry being gold to the weight of a date-stone.” The Messenger of Allah (Allah bless him & give him peace) said: “May Allah bless you (in your marriage), perform a Walima, even if it is only with a goat.” (Sahih al-Bukhari,no. 4872)

The Messenger of Allah (Allah bless him & give him peace) himself provided a Walima after many of his marriages. He provided meat and bread on the occasion of his marriage with Zaynab bint Jahsh (Allah be pleased with her), Hays (a type of sweet-dish cooked with dates, cheese & butter) on the occasion of his marriage with Safiyya (Allah be pleased with her) and barley on another occasion. (See: Sahih al-Bukhari & Sahih Muslim)

Thus, it is a Sunna and strongly recommended to have a Walima.

The Time of Walima:

The scholars have disagreed as to the correct time of this Walima. There are many opinions. For example:

1) At the time of the marriage contract,

2) After the marriage contract and before consummation of marriage,

3) At the time of the wedding procession (bride leaving for her husband’s house) (Ibn Hajar, Fath al-Bari, 9/287)

However, the majority of the scholars (jumhur) are of the opinion that Walima is a meal that is prepared after the marriage has been consummated. This was the practice of the Messenger of Allah (Allah bless him & give him peace), as explicitly mentioned in one narration.

Sayyiduna Anas ibn Malik (Allah be pleased with him) narrates that he was a boy of ten when the Messenger of Allah (Allah bless him & give him peace) migrated to Madina. (He added): “My mother and aunts used to urge me to serve the Messenger of Allah (Allah bless him & give him peace) regularly, thus I served him for ten years. When the Messenger of Allah (Allah bless him & give him peace) passed away, I was twenty years old, and I knew about the order of Hijab more than anyone else, when it was revealed. It was revealed for the first time when the Messenger of Allah (Allah bless him & give him peace) had consummated his marriage with Zainab bint Jahsh (Allah be pleased with her). The Messenger of Allah (Allah bless him & give him peace) in the morning was a bridegroom, and he invited the people to a banquet. So they came, ate, and then all left except a few who remained with the Messenger of Allah (Allah bless him & give him peace) for a long time….. (Sahih al-Bukhari, no. 4871)

Sayyiduna Anas (Allah be pleased with him) said: “The Messenger of Allah (Allah bless him & give him peace) consummated his marriage with a woman (Zainab), so he sent me to invite people for a meal.” (Sahih al-Bukhari, no. 4875)

The great Hadith master (hafidh), Ibn Hajar al-Asqalani (Allah have mercy on him) states:

“The Hadith of Anas (quoted above) is clear in determining that Walima is considered to be after the consummation of marriage.” (Fath al-Bari, 9/199. Also see: I’la al-Sunan, vol. 10, p. 11)

It is stated in al-Fatawa al-Hindiyya:

“The marriage banquet (walima) is a Sunna and there is great reward in it. And it is carried out when the marriage is consummated.” (al-Fatawa al-Hindiyya, 5/343)

Having said this, scholars mention that there is also scope in following the other opinions, thus if one had a Walima before consummation, it is hoped that one will gain the reward of Sunna.

How many days?
The Hanafi jurists (fuqaha) are of the opinion that, a banquet up to two days will be considered to be a Walima, after which it will no longer be considered a Walima.

It is stated in al-Fatawa al-Hindiyya:

“There is nothing wrong in inviting people the next day after consummation or the day after. After that, marriage and Walima celebrations will come to an end.” (5/343)

It has also been reported from the Messenger of Allah (Allah bless him & give him peace) that he stated: “Walima on the first day is confirmed (haq), and on the second day, it is good (ma’ruf), and on the third day, it is showing off.” (Sunan Abu Dawud, no. 3738)

Although scholars mention that if there is a need, such as not being able to invite everybody on one day, then it will not be wrong to invite them on separate days.

Simplicity:

Finally, it should be remembered that, the simpler the Walima (and the marriage ceremony as a whole) is kept, the better it will be. At times, people spend thousands upon thousands in feeding people, a sum which can be used for other indispensable needs of the Muslims. And if the intention behind spending such an amount is to show-off, then this will be regarded a grave sin.

The idea here is to feed people with sincerity and simplicity. If one feeds people the simplest of meals but from the heart, then that is far better (and the food is also more enjoyable) than feeding them quality food, where the intention is not so sincere.

Sayyida A’isha (Allah be pleased with her) narrates that the Messenger of Allah (Allah bless him & give him peace) said: “The most blessed marriage (nikah) is the one with the least expenses.” (al-Bayhaqi in his Shu’ab al-Iman & Mishkat al-Masabih).

Excerpts taken from: Muhammad ibn Adam al-Kawthari Darul Iftaa

Najwa& Nadira

Muslimah2Muslimah

HIJABI RECESSIONISTA- FIND OF THE WEEK: The Maxi Skirt!!!

Okay, so we all know how trendy the "maxi-dress" has been this year and how for some of us, it has become a staple in our wardrobes... However, Muslimah2Muslimah has discovered a new trend this week which is called the "maxi-skirt"!!!

We know, we know... It is usually super hard to find non-frumpy long skirts, right? Well... we found it and all of these skirts can be found at Wet Seal for under $30.00... and that's including tax! We know it is getting hotter and these skirts are comfy, modest and breezy AND super cute! Think of all the many possibilities with these printed skirts! we are sure most of our readers have plenty of hijabs and long sleeved cotton shirts to match of with these skirts... If not refer back to our Hijabi-Rcessionista's in the past for hijabs! You can find these skirts at the following link: http://www.wetseal.com/catalog/category.jsp?categoryId=102&viewAmount=142&currentPage=1

Okay, ladies, happy summer and Happy Shopping!

Najwa & Nadira

Muslimah2Muslimah

Muslimah2Muslimah: Interview With New Revert To Islam: Eva!!!

In Muslimah2Muslimah's experience of reverts to Islam, we think the transitions of one's thoughts, opinions, and behavior, in fact a whole transformation of one's perspective in life is very interesting. Eva is far from the ordinary….she exemplifies how thinking can take someone a long way. It's amazing how far a little common sense and knowledge can go. Eva is one our YouTube subscribers who became a Muslimah on of all days, Easter Sunday, masha'Allah!

The negative image presented about Islam since 9-11 here in the states has really given Islam a bad name due to the media as well as people's lack of understanding. The stereotypes about the treatment of women has been rampant in the media for many years with the Taliban and other "extremist" groups. We thought it would be interesting to interview Eva, who in the midst of all propaganda has warmly embraced Islam and get her Muslimah's Perspective on Islam...

Muslimah2Muslimah: What is your name?

Eva: Evangeline meaning "good news"

Muslimah2Muslimah: What made you become interested in Islam?

Eva: I was really doing a lot of reading and researching about myself as an African woman, and the history of our people. I began researching history and culture and various traditions, holidays, and the symbolism of many things. And the more I learned, the more I realized that in the western world we have been taught a very self-destructive way of life mentally, physically, and spiritually. In reading and exploring new things, I came across Islam and what it taught. I realized that it mainly fell in line with the positive changes I was making in my life. After I saw the connection several times, I started to research it, and found peace in it.

Muslimah2Muslimah: What does your family think about your decision?

Eva: My mom is very supportive. She trusted my judgment because she knows I researched it thoroughly first. She didn't know much about it and was just interested in learning more. I haven't had any negative reactions yet, but I have a really big family so we shall see what happens! I am most nervous about telling my Grandmother, she can be judgmental at times, and make hurtful jokes or comments about things she doesn't approve of. Inshallah she will be understanding, and open minded, I will tell her when I see her around Mother's Day.

Muslimah2Muslimah: What types of reactions have you gotten from your friends or coworkers?

Eva: The total opposite of what I expected! There are a few older Caucasian ladies there, who I have heard make some very ignorant (racist) comments, so I was expecting to have to politely tell them off, if they were disrespectful. But they actually came to me basically telling me how ignorant they were about Islam, and that they wanted to know more. This became a dawa opportunity. Also one of them brought me a beautiful Qur'an! Inshallah, I will be a positive influence on their ideas about Islam.

Muslimah2Muslimah: How has Islam changed your life?

Eva: Before Islam, I was unsatisfied in life. I was going through some things that left me really unhappy. In turn I was seeking happiness from external sources, drinking, smoking, getting piercings, tattoos. It was like I was trying to drown out a voice that was telling me I wasn't happy. It gave me momentary satisfaction, but no real peace of mind. Islam gave me that peace of mind. It made it easier for me knowing I am living my life to attain an ultimate goal, so everything I say and do has a purpose.

Muslimah2Muslimah: What advice would you give to someone who is interested in Islam?

Eva: Don't be afraid. It can be scary to change your life, but when you put your faith in Allah, he will make it easy for you. Do your research, examine things with an open mind and heart.

Muslimah2Muslimah: Islamically, women are required to wear a hijab. Others say that you must also cover your face(niqab). What are your thoughts on this?

Eva: I understand the purpose of hijab. I like the level of respect I get when I wear it, there is definitely a difference, I also like that other Muslims can identify me. Niqab, I don't think is required. But I can understand the mindstate of someone who wants to go even further to protect their modesty. Its about the state of mind and your intentions.

Muslimah2Muslimah: What is your opinion on the common labels associated with Muslims ("terrorists", "extremists" , etc.)?

Eva: I look at it like this. Charles Manson believed he was Jesus and was killing people so thy could go to Heaven. Not a single person blamed Christianity for this. But when someone claims to be a Muslim and does a horrible act, the first thing they talk about is Islam. I think its not only racist, based on the fact that this religion is typically represented as one of people of color (although there are Muslims of all races alhumdulilah!) , but there is an illogical untruthful propaganda campaign against Islam in the west.

Muslimah2Muslimah: What is your view on the impression that many non-Muslims have that Islam oppresses the women and the women have no voice in their communities?

Eva: There are many places that identify as Muslim countries, and some of them do treat women unjustly. But this behavior is unlawful in Islam, the Qur'an dictates that not only are Muslim women to be treated equally, but many practices are in place solely for their benefit and protection.

Muslimah2Muslimah: The media tends to give very negative views on women and many non-Muslims base their views solely on this. What was your view on Islam and the treatment of women before you converted to Islam?

Eva: I only had one girl friend in high school who was Muslim. She is smart, funny, and has a great personality. So that made me realize that she wasn't that different than me or anyone else. I always thought she was really pretty too, but always dressed modestly, no make up, and I wondered why she wouldn't want to show off her beauty.

Muslimah2Muslimah: Has your view changed in any way?

Eva: Yeah because I understand that as a Muslima you don't lose your femininity, you can still be beautiful. There are just different guidelines. I have had a lot of fun shopping for appropriate hijab clothes. Its like a fun challenge to put together a look that's cute, expresses who you are, and is modest.

Muslimah2Muslimah: How did you feel the first time you wore hijab?

Eva: Nervous, really nervous at first. I was scared I would be treated differently. But all that subsided when I realized that different was good, and I got more respect this way, and plenty of respectful compliments. A few days ago it was 92 degrees, and I had on hijab, loose linen pants, and a long light cotton shirt. I noticed there were a lot of girls wearing very little walking by an older man who was giving them lewd looks, he didn't even look at me. I smiled inside because that's not the kind of attention I want.

~Insha'allah, everyone... please pray for Sister Eva and welcome her
into Islam by leaving her your encouragement and wisdom, insha'allah! We are very pleased with her decision as we know she is as well. Eva, may Allah bless you in all of your endeavors and may He grant you Jannatul Firdaus! Ameen!

Najwa & Nadira

Muslimah2Muslimah

The Muslimah Bikini... Would YOU Wear One???

Okay, we all love the beach and the sun and the water... But how can we go about doing this while still being modest? Very simple... the Bodykini! This swimsuit is a two-piece with long sleeves with attached hood/hijab and long pants with a small pocket. It is made with polyester /spandex mix. It offers protection from UV rays, has low water absorbency, quick drying, resistant to sea salt, and ensures maximum comfort thanks to “four-way” stretch technology.

Question is, would you guys wear one??? Do you think it is cute or ugly? Is it modest enough,or would you want more coverage? Less coverage? Let us know!

These swimsuits can be found at : http://bodykini.com/ for US $115.06 or EU €89.00.