Keeping Your Marriage Fresh With the "Five Senses Rule"

"And among His Signs is this, that He created for you mates from among yourselves, that ye may dwell in tranquility with them, and He has put love and mercy between your (hearts): verily in that are Signs for those who reflect."

(Quran: Ar-Rum 21)

1. Sight- Always beautify yourself. Make sure your clothing is nice, your hair is done and your makeup looks just right (if you wear it).

2. Hearing- Always greet your hubby with a sweet voice and leave any bad news for later. Never speak in a loud, boisterous manner. Don't try to engage is gossip or trivial conversations. Keep positive, Islamic conversations going and things that your hubby has interest in. Leave the other stuff for your girlfriends.

3. Touch- Make sure your body, your bedsheets are nice to the touch. This could mean shaving your legs or using a nice moisturizer. Using downy softener sheets or changing to Egyptian cotton or satin.

4. Smell- Never have a bad smell in the house. While you cook, be sure to open the windows and afterwards be sure to light a candle, burn oils or incense, or spray a room freshener. Also, change your clothes if you have been cooking meat or onions. Make sure you keep up your hygiene and make a habit of brushing your teeth and spraying perfume on the back of your neck, behind your ears and any other place you can think of before bed. ;-)

5. Taste- Try new recipes for variety and master the dishes he enjoys the most. Be sure that dinner is always ready before he makes it home. No man likes to come home on an empty stomach only to find nothing waiting for him on the stove.
what things would YOU add to this? what do YOU do to keep your hubby happy???

Asalaamu alaikum

Nadira & Najwa

Muslimah Hair Care

" I think I'm gonna do my hair tonight"

" Do your hair?"

" Yeah, I'll probably wash it and do something different to it tonight"

" Wait, why are you doing your hair when nobody sees it?" or now that I'm married "why are you doing your hair when nobody sees it but your husband?"

side note- last time I checked my husband would be the most important person who gets to see my hair!

This is a conversation that I've had many times with co-workers, classmates, etc. This got me thinking about the fact that I've never seen info about hair care for Muslimahs. There is plenty on hijabs but nothing on what's underneath them.

This post is also inspired by this weeks Ask M2M question about hair care. Particularly if you have a kinky/curly hair texture and how to maintain your hair with having to make wudu and ghusl all the time. So here is a quick product review/products I use for my hair to help keep it healthy.

Most of these products are for natural hair but can used on relaxed hair as well. Click the images for the links to their websites.

rating system

* - You Can Do Better
** - Pretty Good
*** - Almost There

**** - You Gotta Have It

Kinky Curly Custard and Knot Today Conditioner ***

This used to be my favorite hair product. This product made my hair very manageable and would last for about a week at a time. I think it works best for air drying and twist sets. I would twist my hair down to my head, let and dry and then untwist it. It made very nice waves that would last for about a week as well. The only downside is it takes a while for the product to dry and you have to make sure to use the right amount. You don't want to over do it or you will end up with flaky hair.

Aussie Shampoo & Conditioner(Moisturize) and 3 Minute Miracle ****

I happen to love this line. It's not expensive at all and easy to find. You can get it everywhere from Walmart to your local grocery store. I like the 3 min miracle conditioner, I do that with a shower cap and it leaves my hair super soft. I also use the shampoo and conditioner because they give my hair the moisture it needs.

Curly Custard **

I have used the curly custard from this line. I love the way it smells. This product for me was not my favorite. It could be because of my hair texture it didn't give me the results I like. With that said I have seen many hair tutorials on YouTube where it works for some and looks fabulous, just not my favorite. If your interested in this product they have samples for sale on the website so you try it and see what products work best for your texture.

Olive Oil Replenishing Conditioner ***

I use this product as a leave in conditioner and it works great. It gives my hair a very soft texture and a nice curl pattern. I like this product because it doesn't take a lot and it last for a while. This can be found at your local drugstore or any beauty supply store. It used to come in a small tub but I've only seen it in the squeeze container recently.

Hair Rules ****

This is my new favorite product. I love how it makes my hair feel and the results that it gives. It doesn't take a long time to dry but it still holds my curls under my hijab. The website often has sales i.e. two for one and you can buy smaller containers to try them to see if you like the product.

Shea Butter ****

Nothing is better than shea butter. It's a perfect moisturizer and you can use it for any type of styling. You can find shea butter everywhere and it is a def must have for every Muslimah!!! You can also use shea butter on your body as a wonderful moisturizer.

As usual comment and let us know what you think. Have you tried any of these products? What did you think? What are some of your favorite hair care products?

Happy & Healthy Hair Care!!!

Nadira

Asalaamu alaikum